"How to
Get Motivated to Exercise and Overcome Depression."
By Debbie Mandel
When someone is mildly depressed, the first remedy
that comes to mind: Exercise. In just a few minutes exercise burns
off stress hormones and raises endorphin levels (the happiness
hormone); now that’s a quick fix. This makes the depressed
person feel better, more uplifted and therefore able to re-interpret
the sources of stress in a more positive light. However, people
who are depressed experience fatigue, low energy levels, irritability,
poor sleep and the lack of interest in getting dressed and looking
presentable. Ironically, the depressed person who needs to exercise
most is not likely to exercise. The situation becomes self-perpetuating.
Depression is associated with dark words. “I’m
not good enough,” “What’s the use of trying,”
“I’m boring,” “I just have no luck,”
“I’ll never find love because I’m not good looking
enough.” A depressed person repeats this negative self-talk
so many times until it becomes automatic, constantly replaying
the same sad lyrics in her mind and believing every word.
The question is: How do you break this cycle
and get a depressed person to exercise? This problem reminds me
of the fairy tale, Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs. One of the
dwarfs, Grumpy, is unhappy and proclaims, “I don’t
want to be happy; I want to be sad!” Clinging to a sad state
gives a person something he or she is seeking: attention and concern.
“Take care of me. I’m a victim.” Exercise physically
and mentally empowers the self, awakening the potential to grow
and move on. I have observed women who felt stuck in their jobs
and marriages, and began a strength training program. After about
a year they were able to leave both situations to find greater
fulfillment. As they put on more muscle, coordinated their movements
to flow and improved their balance, they transferred these skills
to their emotional lives. They blossomed with a new-found creative
force and most importantly, self-confidence. They continued to
exercise regularly which gave them the natural “high”
to look down at their relatively smaller problems and see the
total picture - then the solution. Unlike being hooked on cocaine
or other drugs which deaden the senses, a person practicing a
daily regimen of exercise awakens the senses to greater pleasure
in life. Here are some suggestions to begin exercising when you
are depressed and feel that you don’t have the energy to
do it:
- You have to become aware of your feelings,
specifically what is making you sad and why you are sad?
- Being sad has to feel so uncomfortable to
you, that you want to change it and will make every effort to
pull yourself out of it. If you are not motivated to release your
sadness, you won’t. You have to want to let go.
- Making small changes helps you to keep them.
As the saying goes, small changes, giant gains. Look at all the
big New Year’s Resolutions we don’t keep. Instead
we should call them New Year’s Evolutions. Compliment yourself
frequently for keeping up the good work.
- Work out with a friend. Sometimes we need
an angel to take us by the hand and lead us to the promised land
of health and fitness. Working out with a buddy becomes a social
and positive experience. Often we are depressed because we feel
lonely. Exercising with a friend provides a healthy bond. If you
don’t have a friend to exercise with, go to the gym. You
will meet people in classes and make friends; many people form
close ties when they sweat together.
- Sign up for exercise classes in a gym or community
center. For example, aerobics, spinning, interval training, body-sculpting,
yoga, pilates and belly dancing. Just signing up for a class,
like scheduling an appointment with a doctor, makes you feel better!
Also, a class is more effective than a tread mill or stationary
bicycle, as you need to tap into group energy. The pulsating music
works to excite and keep you moving. Lift all the blinds in the
house and let the light shine in to help brighten you up. Because
we are all different and require different triggers, if the exercise
class suggestions do not work for you, then put on your sneakers
and walk out the door. The sunlight will energize you. A brisk
walk will de-stress and cheer you up. Aim for a twenty minute
walk and each time try to pick up the pace. To make it exciting
walk briskly for five minutes. Then slow down and walk at a relaxed
pace for two minutes. Again, pick up the pace for five minutes,
and stroll for two minutes. Continue the cycle. Varying the intervals
kicks up the body and your mood, keeping you interested, alert
and involved in the switches. When this becomes habitual, pump
your arms and sprint for a minute as an interval. Before you know
it, you might be jogging and developing a runner’s high!
- Buy a new pair of sneakers, fitness clothes,
or a workout audio/video. This can help you to get into the exercise
groove. Remember how you felt anxious before the first day of
school? Your mother bought you some new clothes along with a new
book bag, pencil case, lunch box- well you get the idea.
- Stick up motivating quotes all over your home,
especially on the refrigerator. Play motivating music, perhaps
the theme song from Rocky.
We all have five basic instincts for happiness.
You can count them on your fingers: The thumb is the instinct
for survival. The second finger is choice - what I choose or choose
not to do. The third finger is empowerment to feel that we have
something to contribute. The fourth finger is social as we need
to connect with friends. The fifth finger is fun and we all would
love to release our inner child and cut loose. Exercise strengthens
our entire hand so that we are healthier, able to express ourselves,
feel more powerful, able to meet and greet people and relaxed
enough in our individual whims.
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Debbie
Mandel, MA is the author of Turn On Your Inner Light: Fitness
for Body, Mind and Soul, a stress-reduction specialist, motivational
speaker, a personal trainer and mind/body lecturer at Southampton
College. She is the host of the weekly Turn On Your Inner Light
Show on WHLI 1100AM in New York City , produces a weekly wellness
newsletter, and has been featured on radio/ TV and print media.
To learn more visit her site. |
